Finding love, a romantic partner, do I hear people struggle in that aspect. Worse than ever apparently, friends, strangers online, have been quite vocal on their lack of success. I'm currently reading Metamorphosis by Ovidius, it's has romantic themes which fits the context but Ovidius is an interesting fellow. He lived during Emperor Augustus time (63BC-14AD) and was a huge poet in Rome before getting banished. Ovidius wrote a book, Ars Amandi (Art of love) which the first two books was for men and how to; seduce, besiege and conquer woman. He also wrote about where to find said women in Rome, did this or did it not contribute to Ovidius banishment to Romanian land? (I imagine it as such since it is funny to think about).
It's fascinating to think that men, even back in the day taught each other how to pickup woman, it does give me the impression that some struggled even back then. For me it makes Ancient Roman times more alive, knowing that we share a struggle.

I can't help you in your struggle to find love or maybe you already have one BUT I want to help you love yourself, Epictetus makes sure you understand to focus on what you can control, that is your body and mind. Loving oneself takes time and effort, it's like your past self and what they used to love compared to now. Even Epictetus points out that rich people even back in the day weren't always happy. If material wealth isn't the modern goal then what is? I'm not that wise, sorry dear reader. However i'll say this, there are your own goals and ambitions but I always felt when achieving them that wasn't truly it, there was always a new mountain top to climb, greater then the previous one. No time to celebrate it, there's more to be done or it isn't all that great since so many others have managed it as well. We trick our minds and distract them, caught up in an endless race.

Two things that helped me was physical exercise (swimming) and reading books. This is not a universal blueprint however they are the base ingredients, there will be some leaps of faith for you, you are your own person and have your own needs and wants. However physical exercise should almost be mandatory. It will give you more energy, make you look more healthy, more attractive, better sleep and improved the mood since you can avoid the tired grumpiness. It will certainly improve the odds of finding a romantic partner instead of grieving or being upset about the lack of one. Focus on what you can control and don't despair over what you can't control. My next one is books, the mind needs love, if we can't convince ourselves books are our gateway. Some people have spent their entire lives with these questions in mind so borrow these strong ideas. Read about human goodness like Jean Valjean, Samwise Gamgee and William Stoner. I struggle with life then maybe some Epictetus, Marcus Aurelius, Plato, Albert Camus and Hermann Hesse. A note of philosophy, you don't need to embrace everything these authors have to say, weave your own with their ideas, what fits and what doesn't, they are humans as well and flawed in their own notion. Anyways do read books, if you can stomach it, classics will be great and worthwhile.

A bit boring perhaps but with a life of instant gratification, that might be what we need the most